Feeling like we’re going with the flow in our relationships is possible when we identify with people, projects and places that uplift and inspire us. A feeling of visceral flow shows us we’re with the right people for where we’re at now. Responding instead of reacting can feel like such an achievement, like success. And it’s the most fulfilling and rewarding way to relate to others. But how often does it happen when in confrontational settings?
Have you ever made a choice, and later regretted it, yet next time round you again made that same stupid choice?
Do you ever feel like your going round in circles when it comes to certain relationships or situations?
Have you ever wondered why you deny, fear, avoid or run from particular people, places or parts of yourself?
All of us have moments when we feel out of control. We react instead of respond. And the actions we take from these emotionally charged moments cause regret, resentment, grief and can make us feel like we’re going crazy.
What’s Vijananamaya Kosha?
Kosha is sheath and Vijnanamaya means made of wisdom. Wisdom is something universal, known to all; consciously or unconsciously. This knowing is strengthened by repeated personal experiences in the presence of our first teachers; carers and parents. An experience of wisdom as infants learned through relation, connection and bonds of trust.
Therefore anything we learn and experience, repeatedly, when together with loved ones, intensely shapes what we believe to be a truth; our wisdom. A deep conviction is rooted in personal experience shared with those we identify with, associate with or trust.
These emotional reactions are patterns we’re unconsciously trained in at a very early age. These are habits we used to adapt to the circumstances we’re born or brought up in. we’re also at our most impressionable from conception till the first 3 years. This is when anything that’s repeated over and over becomes a certainty. And therefore forms our beliefs about ourselves, our care takers, our environment and our world.
These latent impressions become our drives. Our drives are directed by our beliefs. Our beliefs are shaped by those we are influenced by. We’re influenced by those closest to us.
These impressions in Sanskrit called Samskaras and in psychology inner drives.
Working with Vijnanamaya, Yoga Psychology
Yoga psychology is all about relationship. To self and other.
Understanding and working with Vijnanamaya is the psychology of Yoga and Ayurveda.
Vijnanamaya kosha is the body of wisdom and perception. Experience and belief. It’s the part of us that’s intuitive, receptive, reactive, respond-able and responsible.
Without integrating this understanding of living and experience, a yoga practice can help or hinder, empower or inhibit, even make or break our health and wellbeing.
In Yoga therapy a huge part of creating a practice is understanding the wisdom sheath. Our inner drives, the root cause of many imbalances.
Understanding our inner drives and deepest fears gives us a big clue to how we can undo the knots of past impressions. Because we want to move into fulfilling, rewarding and delicious relationships. No one wants to go around in circles accusing, arguing, coping, walking away, blaming, shaming etc.
We all need, desire and deserve healthy, deliberate, conscious and compassionate relationships and connection to self and others.
Understanding the inner drives of Vijnanamaya kosha
Understanding how Vijnanamaya kosha, our wisdom body, influences our perception, emotions, choices, reactions, and eventual actions, allows us to make new choices. To flow more naturally through our relationships, and experience our interconnectedness.
It allows us to be more accepting of self and others. It’s the first doorway self love, self compassion and self care. Because we can love ourselves as imperfectly perfect, we open the windows for others to also be perfectly imperfect too.
This spaciousness makes way for a sense of responsibility to do our part and also to set up boundaries, that allow others to do their part in the play of life. Problems and differences are no longer personal. Just two people seeing and experiencing in their unique ways.
We can accept conflict and confront people. We separate issues from people.
When we honour our sense of self, our identity and integrity, we respond to situations instead of reacting.
Identity, a template for Wisdom, and Inner Drive
The bottom line of why we react instead of respond is our sense of identity.
Identity drives actions.
As new-born’s we identify wholeheartedly with our caregiver. Whatever the repeated reaction, physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically, sets the example for us to do the same.
We only differentiate as far as we feel safe enough to still be accepted as part of the family /tribe. These early adaptive patterns ensure survival. But if we never psychologically or emotionally leave home and find our own identity, they become our basic default drives throughout our lives.
Our beliefs are based on the repeated behaviour of the family/tribe/group/culture/society with which we identify. The behaviours, like latent impressions, create templates of beliefs of how we should act and react. These beliefs become filters for what comes in and out of our wisdom body. The filters, Samskaras, informs our perceptions. Our perceptions in turn influence our experiences, emotions and reactions.
In this way, identity drives our choices and actions, again and again.
We’ve lost the ability to respond or see clearly without filters and distortions of past experiences.
And seeing we’re a social species, one of the most powerful influences are our family, friends, teachers, and mentors. Whatever we immerse ourselves in, we’re influenced by. The degree depends on how much time we spend with them, not whether we like what they feel, think, say or do. Identity drives action.
Changing the tides of reactions to responding
We can use this to our advantage too. When we identify with inspirational people, we flow like a stream toward that way of living and looking at the world. Because their life, actions, words and thoughts embody and exemplify what we aspire toward. We’re guided in beliefs, perception and choices.
We identify with whomever we hang out with. And the five people most in your daily life influence you most. So just hang out with people you want to be like. If you can’t hang out with them, read books, articles, watch interviews, documentaries of how inspirational people live, laugh, share, care, create and integrate their wisdom into everyday living.
Our perception, beliefs and intelligence; becomes our wisdom. This template of latent impressions all inform our choices, reactions and inner drives.
Guided by the healthy people we surround ourselves with, choosing which books we read, films we watch, activities we take part in or the music we’re immersed in a self we want to be with. This is exactly how we influence our psyche and set ourselves up for success when it comes to relating and connecting.
Our wisdom body is the psyche that knows our interconnection. We see ourselves in the heroines and heroes of stories. Identify with archetypes. We see unconscious and subconscious patterns playing out in each one of us.
Bringing these patterns to light of consciousness through meditation, mindfulness, concentration and journaling. Reflectinng on inspiring stories and uplifting films is exactly how we empower our wisdom body.
Once the patterns are conscious we see and understand what’s going on underneath our inner drives. We dive underneath the play of details into the immense incredible fabric of consciousness, and connect to our identity with bigger self, universe, cosmic, higher, divine, whatever You want to call it.
We can identify with the heroine and hero, the Goddesses and Gods, because even they make mistake and have their fair share of problems.
Issues, imperfections and mistakes are the bounty of playful living, they make us laugh, let us relax and see the silliness of our seriousness. They give us room to BE.
Love to the fuller, bigger and wiser You, the self that dares to step onto the Heroines’ journey.
Love the You you are now, perfectly imperfect, finding your beauty and power as you go.